A mistake in your life..

[Plainkiller]

Hi everyone.

I just have a question and i was hoping that you guys could tell me you opinion.

I've made a very bad mistake during my relationship and when my gf asks me why i did it i can't tell her why not because i don't want to tell it's just because even i can't understand why i did it. This is normal right? Is there times when you do something and you can't explain why you did it?

Thanks

[the_only_moggy]

Changed the thread title, When using A or An (i.e. A car, or An Otter) you only use An when the second word begins with a vowel or a silent letter like H. Small thing but it bugged me :P

I can relate in some way since I have poor impulse control, but in my experience when someone says they don't understand why they did something it usually means they won't admit to themselves why they did it. Even if you only did whatever it was as a spur of the moment thing for personal gratification (i.e. making out with a random girl at aparty you had no intention of ever seeing again), there is still a reason; gratification. It may not have been a good reason, and in hind-sight it may not make sense, but it's still a reason. Hell, even doing something for the simple reason of doing it is kind of a reason, but to have done something with no reason at all, not forethought, no reasoning, just a complete random act is highly unlikely and probably a sign of illness (I'm not saying that is the case, but if it's true you have no reasons at all it's something you should consider).

If I were you I would admit to yourself first what you did and whatever reason you had for doing it, no matter how small or petty, then go from there, because if you feel guilty enough to post about it then you're looking for an answer only you can give to yourself.

[kjkg]

Moggy is bang on. It is more likely you dont want to admit to yourself what the reasons were behind your actions.

I have been in a very similar place and it was awful, but once you can tell yourself why, it becomes easier. There is a reason for whatever you did. You just have to work out what it is. It could possibly be the hardest thing you have ever done, but it will be better for you in the long run.

[Plainkiller]

sorry for my spelling..i'm portuguese and my english is a little rusty..:P

I know why i did it..i thought that what i was doing was right but some time after i realised that it was very very wrong.
The main problem is that my gf doesn't accept my explanation..no matter how many times i tell her she just doesn't believe me..she demands a better reason for what i did..but there isn't..

Man..i think i'm getting a little crazy..:S