How to kiss someone.

[JAKE911]

Okay. Me and this other girl are meeting. (Meeting - Kissing) I just... don't know how to. It'll be my first and I want serious responses.
Also, how do you ask to make it more than just a kiss. It seems I like her a bit more every day and kinda wanna ask her out .

[Haza103]

Wait, what? You wanna kiss her BEFORE you ask her out? Sounds like it will scare her off. Take your time man. Saying that, if it happens it happens. But i still suggest you actually go out until you can confirm you're in a relationship with her before trying anything on.

[JAKE911]

Actually, her friend sorta set us up and I was like okay. We've been friends for ages so...

[Haza103]

Well it's just my two cents. I'm in a similar-ish situation and i ain't gonna rush it. But just go with whatever you think feels right. Who knows, might work out perfect ;)

[Scowie]

NO TONGUES. :P Thats bedroom stuff. Slow and steady and not like your tryna bite her jaw off. (Y) :D

[JAKE911]

Yeah but the thing is we've both never kissed anyone. I dunno how I'm gonna do it 'cuz I'm not sure what she's gonna do, how long it's gonna be.
Confusing as hell. I'll talk to her tomorrow though.

[Haza103]

Ah bloody hell, are we now on about just a small kiss or a full on make out? Full on make out doesn't exactly sound like something for a first kiss, unluess you live in a hollywood Cliche type of world.

This is just making my head hurt :S. Maybe i just have this idea in my head of how everything is gonna play out in my own situation. Either way, like before, what ever feels right.

[pearce1966]

watch a vid opn utube but its fairly simple

[bringerofchaos]

or you could watch many movies or real people do it, read a novel about it, ask your grandmother, you know, what ever floats your boat ;)
just make sure you dont bite her face off lol

[James!]

Oh c'mon jake.. your Irish lad.. use abit 'o the irish charm and you do fine

[PandaPanic!]

Lick her face and stick your tongue down her throat and move it around really fast ... that's how NOT to do it.

If you want some serious advice then just give her a kiss on the cheek or the lips and then if you know she likes it (you will know if she did) then put your tongue in her mouth ... not all the way in and move it around the edge slowly ... that is as accurate as i can describe it without sounding gay.

Good luck ... but just don't push your luck dude ... make sure she is ready for that stuff (Y)

[RGL_UK]

Lick her face and stick your tongue down her throat and move it around really fast ... that's how NOT to do it.

If you want some serious advice then just give her a kiss on the cheek or the lips and then if you know she likes it (you will know if she did) then put your tongue in her mouth ... not all the way in and move it around the edge slowly ... that is as accurate as i can describe it without sounding gay.

Good luck ... but just don't push your luck dude ... make sure she is ready for that stuff (Y)

I'm so sorry but that just creased me up.
Jesus Christ I have a stitch now .. Well done Dan.

Honestly mate, best advice I can give you is to ask this thread to be deleted.
End of the day, everyone has their own styles.
You may not know yours yet but you will when your ready.
If you sit and listen to others you will go into the "date" uncomfortable feeling that it has to be done like that.
Seriously this isn't something you can plan, if the moment is right you will know, I know that sounds so cheesy but its true.
Its natural, its like you know how to do it subconsciously anyway.
Its perfectly natural to be nervous about a first kiss.
I mean I still get nervous over a first kiss with anyone and I've kissed, *counts on fingers, around 17 girls.
Want the best advice EVER.............. Just be yourself :)!
If it was meant to be it will be, if it ain't then your get someone new :)!

[Arun.]

Lick her face and stick your tongue down her throat and move it around really fast ... that's how NOT to do it.

If you want some serious advice then just give her a kiss on the cheek or the lips and then if you know she likes it (you will know if she did) then put your tongue in her mouth ... not all the way in and move it around the edge slowly ... that is as accurate as i can describe it without sounding gay.

Good luck ... but just don't push your luck dude ... make sure she is ready for that stuff (Y)

LMAO, sounds abit weird but its spot on, take it slowly get close to her without kissing her and if you can feel tension between you 2 then just go for a little kiss and the rest is history :D.

Reading what LTP said was a tad weird though XD

[Tassy]

The best advice is to listen wat RGL said he jus summed it up

[Lewis Grindell]

I was in the same situation before except i'd kissed alot before.
All I can say is first kiss her on the lips then if it feels right ask her out then start doing the real buisness---getting of with each other etc.:P
Only go to kiss her though if you feel she wants to aswell.

[JayBox]

^ I didn't read any of those.. but

I just found it funny that there is an actual thread for this! >.<

[Paddy]

For now I'll keep my mouth close, as 12 hours ago I asked my friends girlfriend if she would mary me.... I was drunk ofcourse

[DuggyEG]

For now I'll keep my mouth close, as 12 hours ago I asked my friends girlfriend if she would mary me.... I was drunk ofcourse

Thats a WHOLE different thread!! haha

Jake man honestly just take it easy with the girl, don't force it (not in an assaulting way, but I mean don't think that you guys HAVE to kiss lol), it'll happen when it happens, don't be in any rush to do it, you got a while yet!!

[NPHowells]

Well Jake there are multiple factors to be considered here. For example

How old are you?
How old is she?
How long have you known each other?
How long have you known each other as potential bf/gf material?
How do you feel about her?
Will anyone else be present during said date?

All these factors are small things but combined would personally change my perspective of how a first kiss should be.

[IshTing]

Im with Jay on this one. I know its in the off topic/serious disscusion section, but it just seems a little silly to ask people for advice on this subject on the internet at all, as RGL said, its not exactly something you plan.

[TheFemaleDurden]

Like everyone else said, go with the flow. These things happen naturally, but I don't think it's weird to be nervous and thus ask for advice online. My advice is to go with it; heck you don't even have to kiss.

Buuuuut, if it really will make you feel better knowing a few things, then here are my 2cents:

It obviously depends depends on you, the situation and the person. I disagree with whoever said tongues are not for first kisses or outside the bedroom. When a tongue is first used when kissing it makes you tingle and blah blah get horny blah blah yeah. But I find it can also be a very intimate thing as well.

Some people like the mad tongue thrusting/sucking (not me *shudders) like in asian porn (this is not good kissing -.- ), others push their tongue in while pressing the mouths together so that when you slowly draw your tongue back into your own mouth (as the mouths are closing round each other), it will pass and touch his/her closing lips.

Add this to very slow kissing: combining rough (but slow) open mouths with pecks and nibbles on the lips. When both mouths are open and only ever so slightly touching, push your tongue out towards his/hers (slowly) and make that lick motion with the tip (SLOWLY! lol and really barely 'flicking' it at all) already begining to close your mouth as you do so (thus transitioning into a open-to-closed-mouth kiss as mentioned in the paragraph before.)

Tongue use of this kind can be both sexy and intimate/gentle/romantic. :) and is my favourite way to kiss whilst in a purely romantic situation. Now, when lust or whatever else comes into it... but we'll have to wait till you actually pull the girl for that! lol

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....I find it very strange that I sat and typed all that... I feel like a complete weirdo, but he asked so I answered. Shaddap!

[PandaPanic!]

Like everyone else said, go with the flow. These things happen naturally, but I don't think it's weird to be nervous and thus ask for advice online. My advice is to go with it; heck you don't even have to kiss.

Buuuuut, if it really will make you feel better knowing a few things, then here are my 2cents:

It obviously depends depends on you, the situation and the person. I disagree with whoever said tongues are not for first kisses or outside the bedroom. When a tongue is first used when kissing it makes you tingle and blah blah get horny blah blah yeah. But I find it can also be a very intimate thing as well.

Some people like the mad tongue thrusting/sucking (not me *shudders) like in asian porn (this is not good kissing -.- ), others push their tongue in while pressing the mouths together so that when you slowly draw your tongue back into your own mouth (as the mouths are closing round each other), it will pass and touch his/her closing lips.

Add this to very slow kissing: combining rough (but slow) open mouths with pecks and nibbles on the lips. When both mouths are open and only ever so slightly touching, push your tongue out towards his/hers (slowly) and make that lick motion with the tip (SLOWLY! lol and really barely 'flicking' it at all) already begining to close your mouth as you do so (thus transitioning into a open-to-closed-mouth kiss as mentioned in the paragraph before.)

Tongue use of this kind can be both sexy and intimate/gentle/romantic. :) and is my favourite way to kiss whilst in a purely romantic situation. Now, when lust or whatever else comes into it... but we'll have to wait till you actually pull the girl for that! lol

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....I find it very strange that I sat and typed all that... I feel like a complete weirdo, but he asked so I answered. Shaddap!

This is probably one of the most intelligent answers i have ever seen written on this site let alone on such a topic like this (:

[TheFemaleDurden]

Thanks Panda. Just trying to help. Get used to all that because I am addicted to large posts >< it's a problem lol.

[PandaPanic!]

Thanks Panda. Just trying to help. Get used to all that because I am addicted to large posts >< it's a problem lol.

Hehehe it's fine to be honest i must admit i used to blabber on and on back in the day too, i like reading long posts though so the longer the better (:

[Mattas]

im not goin2 give advice via the internet on how 2 kiss sum1, but reading that & sum of the answers had me howling, although sum ppl gave good advice but asking ppl online is weird

[Pure_Mind_Games]

I disagree with whoever said tongues are not for first kisses or outside the bedroom.

America?

I think tonges depends on your age, if you're 10 you're not usually thinking about using tonges (or sex as much as when you're older (males mostly))

[CraigyBL2]

I can't believe I've never seen this thread before, it gave me my lulz for the day.

[TheFemaleDurden]

@Pure_Mind_Games.

I agree, I just assumed the poster was a young teen (though of course I shouldn't have assumed anything.)